Thursday, November 16, 2006

IT'S A WONDERFUL LIFE

I have been thinking about writing this for awhile, ever since all the Christmas(It's a Wonderful Life) emails started going around.

Can't promise this will be funny but here goes.

Joseph call for Clarence we got another man that needs some help down on earth.

Like most of you I have had some very depressing times suicide and wishing I have never been born has crossed my mind on several occasions. Mostly way back before I met Cindy. Life was pretty depressing for me, I wondered if I would get married or have any kids. But as you know that all worked out great. I couldn't be happier as a husband and a father to 3 great boys.

But would would have happened if I wasn't there by any means. Say an accidental drowning. Most of you probably don't know that when I was about 8 or 9 years old we were swimming at Wyconda State Park. I didn't know how to swim that well and I was out in the water up to my neck. I kept bouncing up and down off the bottom and slowly getting out in deeper and deeper water when my foot slipped off the ledge to the deep water and down I went. I still remember that horrible feeling, trying to get air and thrashing like an idiot. I would have drowned that day but someone grabbed me and pulled he in. This is probably why I don't like swimming in lakes, just swimming pools. Also probably why I don't want to fly. :)

So old George Bailey what would have happened if Joe would have died that day.

Well several years after that we are swimming in a pool owned by a friend of Jan's, I don't remember all the details but let's just say Jeff dove in the deep end and went down and I went in and got him. 1 life saved.

Then there was another time we were all swimming at Chaddocks, boy we like to swim don't we? We were finishing up and we were all walking in to the locker room. I was the last one, so I thought. Just as I was walking in to the locker room I heard a splash. I looked down in the pool and there was Craig, he was only about 3 so I guess he didn't know he couldn't walk on water. So I went in after him. 2 lives saved.

Fast forward to about 17 years ago. Cindy and I were having a late night snack. Cindy got something stuck in her throat and couldn't breath at all, no air was coming out. She started to panic, I started to panic. Then I got behind her, no wrong story. I smacked her on the back 2 or 3 times. It came out the first smack but I was getting in to it. 3 lives saved.

Now what about all the experiences that weren't near death. Like the time I saved John when we fell on all that glass. Actually I didn't help him but I did get the soda and milk home. And what about Jay, how many times did I help you find that stocking hat of yours. It was easy to find....I hid it.
So if I would have died that day...........

I know you all have similar experiences like me. All those what if I wasn't there moments. When I think about this it really makes me wonder. What if Jill survived. What would she have done or not done. Would kind of influence did we miss out on. Would she have been the favorite sister or the family bitch. Would she have hogged the glory and save Jeff that day or was it her saving me at Wyconda. I am sorry we will never know how she would have influenced this family. Maybe she would have won the real lottery.

So with Thanksgiving closing in and Christmas next month I pause to remember and be thankful for all I have. With tears running down my cheeks. I want to say thank you Lord for my life, my GINORMOUS family and all my friends.
I hope everyone realizes all they have to be thankful for, I do.
Cindy, Adam, Cody and Eric.
And from Jer all the way down to Ty and Aiden and everyone in between, I love you all.


HAPPY 100TH BLOG POSTING.

13 comments:

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

I love you too, Joe-George.

Anonymous said...

Jer(Hairy Bailey) yes I know I spelled it right.

For someone that has a blog and has wrote a book you don't have much to say.

Anonymous said...

oh honey...I didn't know you almost drowned at Wyakonda...i would have wound up a old dried up spinster librarian.....So you saved my life too, twice(the choking incident is true folks..shot that damn pizza from the living room to the dining room)...and what would the world be without those 3 beautiful babies of ours????

Sorry...you missed the mark on funny on this one though...you made me cry. I love your big ginormous family too...Jill is my favorite.

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

Cindy, I'm sure you mean my daughter, Jill.

Anonymous said...

Did you ever go exploring? Did you marry the girl? The three greatest sounds aren't motors, whistles or bells. They are, Let's go to Joe and Cindy's on New Years day 1986, it'll be great and they'll talk about it for years. Heads up, LAWNCHAIR! And thanks for the sidewalk.

Anonymous said...

That was awesome, you managed to be funny and sentimental all at the same time. I really enjoyed it. 100 posts--you're doing good Joey Bear! :)
I'm glad you lived too, otherwise I wouldn't have you for a godfather and an uncle or have a wonderful Aunt Cindy or ACE!!!

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

Joe, I did love all the references to It's a Wonderful Life. We talked about this posting the other night and I told you I thought it would be a good one. Right again. :) (Have I used enough words now?) Love you.

Anonymous said...

JAY... you are on a roll today (and past comments made today too)....so see Rob, Uncle Joe isn't the funniest Bozarth. Today Uncle Jay is. And thanks Kelly..that was so sweet of you to give Uncle Joe another reason to be glad he didn't drown. YOU are the BEST GODDAUGHTER he has!!!(he'd agree)

Anonymous said...

Joe if you had drowned at Wyakonda I wouldn't have married Jay. Jay and I both worked at St.Mary's Hospital and he invited me to a party at his apartment. I saw you give Jay a thumbs up, while motioning with your head towards me. I figured if Jay's brother was that nice, I should marry Jay. Later on I wondered if it was just a "tic" or your Fonz impersonation.

Anonymous said...

Great post Joe! I always think about what ifs too- but life is pretty good the way it is, huh?

Anonymous said...

OK Cindy

This was not meant to be totally funny. I wasn't shooting for funny. What I wanted to do is show how lucky we are to have each other and how precious our lives are. And yes Jeff, Craig and Cindy probably all would have survived but isn't it strange how one man's life touches so many others.

And further more did you know Jay is standing on the crack of the floor that opens into a swimming pool.

If you think Jay is so funny how come nobody goes to his blog.

Anonymous said...

Jay has a blog??

There have been many times that I had wished that I had gone away to college instead of staying here but I wouldn't have met Todd or had these three boys so I'm glad I didn't. It's always neat to think about how one simple decision can change your whole future.

I think I like Sentimental Joe.
Or is he Mental Joe??

Anonymous said...

I just wished you had saved me sooner. The lack of oxygen didn't help. With a ginourmas head I need more oxygen than most. Oh well, at least i'm alive and droolin.

Love you bro,
Jeff